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Scars Of Long Suffering

Have any scars? Of course you do. Some might be physical, but we all carry scars of relationships, unmet expectations, and the effects of our sin with us.

I’ve had a pretty crazy few years. In the midst of that I’ve come to understand the power of vulnerability and the power of community in a new way. I’ve also learned about the power of scars from long-suffering. Those are the scars built over navigating hard things. Some times it’s immediate, other times those things last a lifetime.

Some are self-inflicted, like the one I have on my knee from a careless childhood injury. Some are not, but they land on you anyway. Those usually are not cosmetic; they run deep into your soul and are supremely personal.

Recently I was spending time with a close friend whose world has been shaken by some hard news. One of the reasons I am able to walk through this with him is that I have scars I didn’t have a few years ago. Not proud of them, but God has used them as a key to open a door of empathy and care not only between him and me, but  also with those He allows me to come in contact with.

I once heard someone say that scars are beautiful. I thought that speaker was crazy. Now I get what he was saying. God has a way of taking our messes and mistakes and using them in ways that only makes sense in His divine story.

The hard part of scars though is that they can redefine who we are. We might even think that our scars define us. They might mark you, but they should not define us. That alone should come from your relationship with the One who can use the scars in amazing ways.

After 20 years of relational ministry, I am very aware that God can take our scars and use them—not only in our stories, but to help others redeem theirs. He’s good that way.

So I have to ask, what are your scars? Is it possible that He could use them as a key to a door you never imagined that leads you and others into a deeper relationship with Him? I think so.

Scratch that. I know so, because I have the scars to prove it.

Why 20?

Two weeks from this posting my ministry Legacy Now is hosting an event called 20: A Celebration. This past fall marked 20 years since the Lord led me to start an internship within student ministry. Crazy!

The idea to have the 20 event stemmed from my ministry board of directors and a conversation about longevity in ministry. The average student pastor lasts a little over a year at a church. He’s allowed me to work with primarily 3 ministries in the last 20 years. It was decided that 20 years in student ministry was worth celebrating, so here we go!

The event is going to be a special night. It’s really is two parts. The first part is taking time to honor His faithfulness over the last 20 years. I’ve asked some legendary friends who have been a part of that journey to share a bit. I’m sure the jokes and sarcasm are coming my way. And I can’t wait.

The second part is sharing about what He has me doing now with Legacy Now. We started 5 years ago this month. And it has been a ride I would have not imagined serving churches and leaders all over America. That’s a good thing. In the midst of that He continues to re-sharpen and focus what He has called LN to. That process has led to bigger dreams. I can’t wait to share that at 20.

So the event is part celebration, part vision. My heart for the night is simple. I have been and am praying that everyone who attends does not get in their car to go home and talk about me. I know, it’s my 20 year celebration. But I want those who attend to leave inspired knowing that He is faithful and hey, if He can use someone like me, He can use anyone! True story.

I hope you’ll consider joining us if you are in Atlanta. Tickets are free, but you need to RSVP to attend.

The event is going to be in The Attic at North Point Community Church on Monday night March 13th.

You can RSVP and find out all the details here: 20: A Celebration Event.

20 for 20 Part II

news_gallery_logo_3This fall marks 20 years of working in student ministry for me. Very thankful the Lord has allowed me to serve with so many for so long. I have learned a lot along the way. Still learning. To celebrate that, I am doing a few week blog series of 20 for 20. 20 things I’ve learned in the last 20 years of ministry. Today is the second one, enjoy!

1. When the Lord brings someone to mind, there is a reason. Follow up.
2. Students want to be challenged;, it happens best through relationships.
3. Invite your students into the mundane tasks and watch it become a memory.
4. Never assume someone’s spiritual maturity.
5. The basics still matter—prayer, the Word, and spiritual disciplines.
6. Sarcasm can ruin a vulnerable moment.
7. Every family story has layers. Remember that when you hear the students’ perspectives.
8. Choose to be above reproach, even if it’s awkward or weird.
9. Those you serve with in the trenches are important. Lean into them.
10. If it’s a big deal to your students, don’t shoo it away because it might not be for you.
11. Your students are not your accountability group.
12. Create easy- to- access touch points to hang out. For me, it’s primarily been chili and football and playing cards.
13. You need others investing in you if you are going to invest in others.
14. The enemy wants to steal, kill, and destroy. That includes your ministry and life.
15. Technology is a blessing and a curse; seek to use it well.
16. Meeting the kids of former students really puts it all in perspective.
17. You can only carry others’ baggage for so long. His burden is light.
18. Every student wants to be known and loved, just like you and me.
19. As generations come and go, Jesus stands forever.
20. God has been, is, and always will be faithful. End of story.

20 for 20 Part 1


This fall marks 20 years of working in student ministry for me. Very thankful the Lord has allowed me to serve with so many for so long. I have learned a lot along the way. Still learning. To celebrate that, I am doing a few week blog series of 20 for 20. 20 things I’ve learned in the last 20 years of ministry. Today is the first one, enjoy!

  1. Stuff is stuff; one day it will all fade away. People matter forever.
  2. You will learn so much about yourself by leading others.
  3. Taking time to hang outside of group always make group time better.
  4. God does not need you, but He wants you.
  5. You are not their parent, no matter the family situation. At times you might be the influence they listen to the most.
  6. Seasons change, but you don’t have to lose the relationship.
  7. Don’t take it too personally when a student makes a mistake.
  8. You can’t save them all. You can’t fix a human heart. He can.
  9. Influence and truth do not immediately come to fruition. Don’t be surprised if it takes years.
  10. Your students will remember way more about who you are and what you did than what you said.
  11. Celebrate together. Mourn together. Grow together. Community does not mean just asking questions and meeting; it’s about life.
  12. Choosing vulnerability always opens the door for the next level of group growth, but there is a line of what to share with teenagers.
  13. Don’t assume they communicate with their parents.
  14. They are not “yours,” they are God’s. You’ve been trusted with them for a season.
  15. Some of the best conversations won’t happen at group. They happen doing life.
  16. If you don’t make yourself available, don’t be surprised if they don’t reach out.
  17. Learn to let go and trust Him.
  18. It’s not about you.
  19. The teenage heart is more fragile than it lets on.
  20. Legacy is forever. Groups are temporal. Lead with the end in mind.

Added Value


I’m always looking for added value when I spend my money. For example, my local grocery store gives fuel points on gift cards purchased there. Those points are redeemable for discounts on gas at their fuel pumps. I now use gift cards from there often. Need to reload my Starbucks card? I visit the grocery store to buy a gift card and load it my account. Need something from an online store? I buy a gift card. If I’m going to spend the money anyway, why not get added value for that money and make it go further?

Many of us subscribe to that thinking in more areas than coffee and gas. We are always looking for added value in everything we do.

The church I attend is great at this. If you volunteer, you likely have a drawer full of church t-shirts. You didn’t sign up to get a t-shirt, but it’s added value to your service. Another church I worked with recently hosted their leaders for a great dinner and time to invest in them as followers of Christ. It was a way to give back to those giving to the ministry and add value to their service.

It is wise to consider how you can add value to those who invest in your ministry.

As a church consultant, I understand that. Often a church or leader will bring me in for one purpose, but I want to add more value than just that. That value might be a follow-up report. It might be an ongoing relationship and assistance. It might be helping someone consider things they were not even thinking about yet. It has looked many different ways, which is actually quite fun. It’s on me to add value to those I serve.

A church wanted me to serve them with some consulting, but they did not have the budget. They then asked me to speak at a retreat for their student ministry and then asked me to do some leader training and coaching while there. Boom. They were able to make it happen and I was able to add value in more ways than one. I loved that.

I’d love for you to think about how you are adding value to those who serve your ministry. Are you giving them the bang for their buck of serving?

At the same time, please remember that I am available to serve you as you serve others. I hope in doing so that I can add value to what He has trusted you with.

Take Courage


God is really good, but the situation still stinks.

Ever said that?

I have—and recently. If you have read my blog over the last year, you know that I’ve been walking through some incredibly tough family challenges. When the craziness first happened, I operated on adrenaline trying to figure out how to function. As time passed, the tough stuff has become the new normal; my faith has grown substantially; and as hard as things have been, God has been really good.

It’s really a funny thing about faith. You discover it in new ways when things are trying. You discover things about yourself and God that you might not have wanted to know. At some point you are grateful for it, but at the same time wish you hadn’t had to go through the pain.

One of my best friends said it well the other night: “I just don’t get how Paul was always so upbeat when things didn’t go right. A lot of the New Testament he wrote while in prison. He was being punished for being obedient to God and he used that to point others to Him.”


That is so true though, isn’t it? God has a way of using our messes to become our message and our brokenness to reveal His wholeness.

One of the amazing things about the history of the Christian faith is that it is stuffed full of people whose stories are as much tragedy as success. In the midst of suffering, they used tragedy to point others to the One who sustains.

That leads me to a question. How are you using your current situation? Are you busy moaning and groaning about it? Are you pointing fingers at the others who might have done you wrong? Are you mad at the world for not giving you what you think you deserve? It’s the human reaction, for sure.

Dig deeper. Let the anchor of faith hold in new ways to reveal to you that in the midst of hard times, God is as present, real, and faithful as He has been for all of time. He has not given up on us. He is not unaware of our present circumstances. He is in process of taking your story and, if we’ll allow, using it to point back to Him.

Those words don’t come easy, friend. I’ve lived though heartbreaking, life-changing challenges in and around my life. Yet in the midst of that storm, the Lord has been very present and standing on the water reminded us that we can take:  “Courage, it’s me. Don’t be afraid.” (Matthew 13:27 NIV)

No matter your situation today as you read this, I pray that He takes the storms of your life and uses it to draw you closer to Him and tell the world that although things might be hard, He is still a good, good Father.

Why Hire A Consultant?

Hello I Am Someone Who Can Help words written on a nametag sticker or label, which could be worn by a therapist, consultant, doctor, or other expert who can solve your problem

You might be wondering why your church would want to hire a student ministry consultant. Here are some benefits I’ve seen that might be helpful for you to understand not only what I do, but others who serve churches too.

Fresh Eyes
We get so focused on what we know and what we have to do that it is easy to miss things. We are all uniquely wired and passionate. Inviting other eyes into your world is a healthy way to ensure you are not missing things. It also helps put focus on things that need some attention.

Confirming Eyes
We all want to know if we are moving in the right direction. It’s helpful to have someone validate, encourage, or direct our paths to help us do that.

Other Perspectives
A question I get often is this: how do other churches deal with this? I love being able to share ideas from different churches with each other.

Needed Ears
One of my main roles in working with churches is to ask questions and listen. I have a lot to share if needed. One of the most important things I can do is offer a set of ears that cares and wants to listen to where you are and where you want to go. I can’t help if I don’t listen.

Moving Forward
My heart is not to just see how things are now with your ministry. It’s to dream about what could be. With the tyranny of the urgent, we often get stuck in today. I’ve learned that part of my role is to help you dream about what God might want to do in your ministry longterm.

Utilize Them
Some of my favorite experiences have been when churches leveraged one thing to use for another. For example, I spoke at a student ministry retreat and while there they asked me to do a leader trading with their volunteers and meet with some key leaders. I loved that. They told me they did not have the budget to bring me in on a regular consulting trip, but could bump up a little more than they were going to pay their retreat speaker and use me for more than just speaking. If you hire a consultant, utilize them as much as possible.

There are many positives to taking the step to bring in someone to help you be the best you can at your ministry. As always, I’d love to serve yours. You can find information on that here.

Strong & Fragile


Some things just don’t make sense.

It’s amazing how God made humans to be so strong yet fragile at the same time.

Those two things don’t always align. But when you take stock of your life, it makes perfect sense. He has made us frail to remind us that He is not.

Everyone has a story. Every story includes overcoming challenges. Every story includes failing them.

It demonstrates the polarities of God’s economy: you are often the most whole when you are broken.

Brokenness can be so fulfilling. I know, that doesn’t make sense—right? Not in a broken world, but in God’s completeness, it makes perfect sense.

In the last twenty years of ministry, I’ve heard countless stories that sound something like this: “If you would have told me that I could get through this, I would not have believed you.” Yet, in the power of His grace, we manage to carry on throughout the hard times. In fact, those moments become engrained in our story.

One of the special things about engaging in relational ministry with others is that you get to jump into the trenches of the stories of others. At times, that is a celebration. Other times, it’s a challenge to make it through the battle. Either way, it’s part of the opportunity of investing in others, helping them trust, and leveraging their story towards our Heavenly Father.

Many years ago I had to call a parent. I hated doing it, but I had to. A student had made an extremely unwise choice that threatened his life and the life of others. That student was mad at me and disengaged from our ministry. That hurt.

Much later on, I ran into him. He’s married now and has a family. He gave me a big hug and simply said: “Thanks for loving me enough to do the hard thing.” His story reminded me that loving, leading, and investing in others is not always easy, but in the end by His grace, it is always worth it. It does not always work out like that, but the results are up to Him, not us.

Redemption wins in the end. And it seems that often the path to redemption is paved in brokenness. As you engage in leading others, don’t run from the brokenness, run TO it and trust Him that He will redeem it in ways only He can.

Free E-Book!


These days if we have an issue, we can usually Google or YouTube it and figure out an answer quickly. That works for most things, but not everything.

As you build your relational ministry, it takes time. There is no quick band-aid fix and it actually takes a lot of intentional planning and time to set your ministry up for long term relational impact.

I know that because I have lived that. I have served in both the para-church and church world for the last 20 years building relational ministries. It is my passion and what I do for a living through Legacy Now. I’ve taken many of the constant issues I’ve heard from student pastors and leaders and put together a quick resource to help you build a ministry based on relationships and the volunteers who invest in them. More and more churches depend on these heroes to help invest well in the students He trusts you with.

I am giving away a E-book I wrote titled “5 Tips To Build Your Relational Ministry” to help you do that. My ministry Legacy Now is for you. I want something for you more than I want something from you. I am also launching a monthly email that will have a quick tip in it to serve you as you invest in others.

To download the book, you need to sign up to get the email. I am honored to be a resource for you. Thanks for allowing me that opportunity. Hoping and praying that it is of help for you.

– Jason

You can access the download page here: Free E-Book



On the Myers/Briggs test I am an EFNP.

On the RightPath test I am a Networker.

If you are familiar those tests, you see my results reveal that I am highly relational. In fact, I once met with a life coach who examined my tests and told me: “You test as one of the most relational people I’ve ever seen.” As excited as I was by that comment, she told me that includes some great strengths, but also some glaring weaknesses.

I keep learning about that and in doing so, it’s changing my life and ministry.

I used to have a roommate who was brilliant with technology. One time I walked into his room to ask him a question, and he snapped at me. I was taken aback. You see, I am the guy who always has multiple things going on at once. Music. TV. Something is always going on. He looked at me and said, “Sorry man, I don’t do two things at once well. I need to wrap this up before I can talk with you.” Gotcha. I am not wired like that, and he reminded me that God wires us all uniquely.

A student shared something really deep and personal with a ministry friend and me. I held onto it, and when I brought it up a few days later, my friend said, “It’ll work itself out.” He was not troubled by it at all. As we talked, we realized that the day God handed out empathy, he was not first in line. I evidently was. We hear the same story and react differently to it based on how we are wired. Fascinating.

One summer while on a college beach project where college students go to grow in their faith, I was hanging out in our common room. I was listening to some killer 80’s hair metal having a good time playing rock star in my mind. And then a guy in my room came in and just turned it off. I was mad. He looked at me and said, “When I hear that, it reminds me of the person I used to be, the person I am trying to move on from.” Huh. That didn’t pop up in my head when I heard that. I learned about convictions in a new way and how we process them.

I share all that to make a simple point. Knowing yourself and others is huge in life and ministry.

While I was consulting with a student pastor recently, he shared some frustration he has with some young leaders on his team. As we unpacked it, one obvious discovery was that he was not clear on how his leaders are wired, yet he had expectations that might not fit. We landed on the need for him to better understand how they are wired and how that fits into their ministry. Simple, yet profoundly important.

Take time to consider how God has wired you and those around you. It will help you extend and receive grace in critical ways.

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